How Can I Be Happy?
(-: Today, let’s talk about being happy. :-)
I assume everyone wants to be happy. At least, all sane, clear thinking and realistic people do. Again, this is my assumption.
Before we go much further into this discussion, exactly what is happiness? Most likely, happiness is, “in the eyes of the beholder.” Some people think happiness is getting everything they want. They want cars, furniture, vacations, clothes, etc.. More often than not, this can lead to never being happy. Every time they get something they previously wanted, their happiness ends with the “newness” of their acquisition. This means happiness is always in the future. It is always coming and going in their life – always appearing and disappearing, therefore, leading to a never ending search for happiness. No matter how much is acquired, there is never enough.
Consider the following quote:
“There are two things to aim at in life: first, to get what you want; and after that, to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.” ~Logan Pearsall Smith, Afterthoughts, 1931
“To get what you want” is what I was referring to at the beginning of this post. If we achieve happiness, then, at the best, it is temporary. But, if we “enjoy it,” where “it” implies the object of our proposed happiness, then we are developing the wisdom to enjoy the things we have.
My point here, is that we should always strive to enjoy what we currently have. There is beauty to be appreciated in the simplest elements of life. No matter how bad our life is, we can find many reasons to feel joy on a daily basis. New things will give us some happiness, but relationships (for example, love of a spouse), simple pleasures (for example, a warm slow bath), nature (for example, watching a robin build a nest), positive actions (for example, cleaning your environment) will lead to real and lasting happiness. In other words, we need to find our happiness in the life we have and not keep thinking happiness will find us in the future!
Who should be happy? – YOU!
When should you be happy? – NOW!
Where should you be happy? – HERE!
Why should you be happy? – LIFE!
How should you be happy? – CONSIDER THE PRESENT A PRESENT!
These are my happy thoughts. I would love to hear about yours.