When you want recognition, what do you do? When you want attention, what do you do? You DO want recognition and/or, perhaps, attention, at least once in a while, don’t you? In case you are one of the few who don’t, then please use your best empathetic thinking to think about recognition/attention and those who want it.:-)
As I think about recognition and attention, the first thing that comes to mind is the strong desire children have for it. Is it recognition or attention, that children have a strong desire for? What’s the difference? Of course, you the reader, can direct your browser to the two hyperlinks in the previous sentence in order to read a Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary definition of each. But, what are the differences to those of us who do not always refer directly to a dictionary for the meaning of words?
Here’s one way of discerning the difference between recognition and attention. Consider little children who seem to want attention more than recognition. They will misbehave, whine, throw a tantrum, etc. When they act inappropriately in that manner, do they want attention or recognition? Well, I guess they want you to give them recognition so they have attention. :-) When you recognize them, they feel they have your attention.
How about adults? Do they have the same needs children do? Yes, I think so. On the other hand, they usually don’t act out in the same way. Instead of misbehaving, whining, and throwing a tantrum, they will become withdrawn and apathetic. This is what happens in a lot of relationships. Little recognition and/or attention results in one or more members of the relationship becoming withdrawn. Then, of course, there is less relating and less attention and less relating and less attention, and ….
So what’s an easy way to solve the problem of too little attention or recognition in a relationship? One small and simple way to help with the problem is to adopt the “lesson” behind a very simple statement. Following the message of this statement, assures that you are giving attention and recognition. What is the simple statement, you ask? It is: “Be Present In The Present!” How do you do this? Well, when you are with the people you are relating with, actively look at and listen to them. Simple? Perhaps, it depends upon your attitude. “To change everything, simply change your attitude.”
Focusing on recognition, is it considered to be an important thing to give in today’s world? I think so and in order to verify its importance, consider the number of different “recognitions” that are given. For example, we recognize people for almost all aspects of life. We give recognition based on: birthdays, scholarship, acting, service, marriage, accomplishment, status, diplomacy, appearance, performing, membership, motivation, wealth, and employment, just to name a few. I think we, as social animals, have an innate need to receive recognition.
William James, an American psychologist and philosopher, once wrote: “What every genuine philosopher (every genuine man, in fact) craves most is praise – although the philosophers generally call it ‘recognition’!” I suppose we could add the word praise as another basic or innate need. But, perhaps Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics, explained the need for attention best when she said, “There are two things people want more than sex and money… recognition and praise.” If we adopt the habit of being present in the present, each of us, individually, will be giving others something that they naturally want and need – recognition.
Is recognition a present in the present? YES!
Be present in the present!
***Worthwhile for a healthy relationship with our fellow humans? Absolutely!
Please consider giving me a present by presenting me with a comment in the present. :-)