I once had a conversation with a person who made the following statement, “For my own happiness, it’s important that people think I’m right.” The statement made me pause and literally step back. I think the person has his personal happiness tied directly to whether or not he is right. Later, I asked him if he would rather be right or happy?
Recently, I had a discussion with a friend about the duality of truth and lies. We discussed whether the opposite of truth is a lie and vice-versa. Much of our discussion involved whether telling the truth is always the best policy. For example, if someone asks you whether or not you like her recent hair style and you don’t, should you be truthful?
So when do you stop learning? Are you a life-long learner? Have you grown up resisting learning? Is learning something you dread? Do you avoid learning whenever possible?
I think many people would give some “negative-leaning” answers to previous five questions.
In a recent post on change, I made reference to affirmations. I mentioned that if you want to change, one way of doing so is to visualize your change, make what you visualize into an affirmation, and repeat the affirmation over and over and over… For this post, I will discuss affirmations and how they can help us facilitate a personal change that we desire.
The only thing that is constant is change! To change everything simply change your attitude! Change is inevitable! To learn means changing your mind!
These are all statements about change that I have heard and used through most of my adult life.
What makes you feel good? Who makes you feel good? Do you have any control over whether or not you feel good? I think these are all good questions and the answers to them can be revealing about whether or not a person is in charge of her/his own happiness.