“Why am I a survivor?” is a question I’ve been asking myself a lot lately. The question was brought to the forefront when my son died recently. On the surface, I realize his death isn’t directly related to my survival. Having stated that, I understand the concern of many of the doctors, nurses and other professionals who ask me: “How are you doing?” They would often, outwardly, express their concern about the well-being of the loved-ones who survived. They warned me about the difficulties I would encounter when trying to answer the question: “Why am I a survivor?”
A few years ago, I came across a quote from Ariane de Bonvoisin about peace. She stated: “On the other side of acceptance is where peace exists, where solutions are.” The quote was taken from her book, The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Making Any Change Easier. After reading the quote, I became curious about this concept we call “peace” and what it really means to me. You see, on the surface, I think the opposite of peace is war.
What do you do when you commit to something? Do you give only “lip service” when you commit? Do you “talk the talk, but not ‘walk the walk’?” What does making a commitment mean? From your point of view, does making a commitment really matter?
The only thing that is constant is change! To change everything simply change your attitude! Change is inevitable! To learn means changing your mind!
These are all statements about change that I have heard and used through most of my adult life.
Recently, I helped plan a “Celebration Of Life” for a friend who had died. Though her death wasn’t sudden – she had battled cancer for many years – I wasn’t prepared for the over-powering feeling that her death had on me. I found it difficult to concentrate on living in the present when her presence was no longer with us.
In many of my posts, I’ve written about the importance of pursuing goals. I have sometimes stated, or at least implied, that goals are essential to achieving overall success in life. Recently, I have been questioning that line of thinking. In other words, I have had some doubt as to whether or not I should take the approach of always pursuing goals in order have the best life.
How can I tell if I’m living my life the best way I can? That question pop in my mind all of a sudden. Actually, I was talking with someone who asked me what I do now that I’m retired. I started thinking about all of the answers I have given before: “I do some part-time work,” “I fix-up my old house,” “I blog,” and sometimes, I give the smart-alec answer of, “I do whatever I want.” But, is this living my life the best possible way? I think my answers don’t necessarily reflect someone who appears to be living a life the best way he can