As a young man, my dad used the saying: “Can’t means you don’t want to!”, many times when responding to my statement of: “I can’t …”. I remember feeling angry when he would constantly say, “Can’t means …,” to me while I thought I was, proverbially speaking, “Stretched as far as I could be stretched.” I felt he didn’t understand my lack of strength, desire, will, motivation, or in general, my inability to actually do what he wanted. I now realize he had a point, though I still think he should have given more consideration to my age and immaturity.
Do you ever quote? Why quote? What is worth quoting and why? These are all good questions of which the answers are in the mind of the quoter.
Do I know any quotable quotes worth quoting? Another good question! I know some quotes that I quote a lot and I think have a lot of value. Does that make them worth quoting? :-)
“All things will pass.” “The only thing that doesn’t change is change itself.” “Nothing remains that’s not maintained.” The preceding quotes are all statements that I have used in the past. They all have to do with entropy. Entropy is a law of physics that asserts that all systems that are left unattended will eventually decay or “run down.” I think entropy applies to individuals and relationships. If I don’t maintain my body, it will breakdown. If I don’t maintain my marriage, it will breakdown. In fact, I’m finding it extremely difficult to find anything in my reality that entropy isn’t an integral part. What won’t “decay” if we don’t maintain it?
When our Navy seals attacked the compound where Osama bin Laden was living and killed him, along with three others, was it appropriate that some of us celebrated his death? Observing the celebration through the media, for some reason, resulted in me feeling uncomfortable. It didn’t seem right that we were celebrating as though we had just won World War 2. The killing of bin Laden, as our government has informed us, doesn’t mean we have won the war on terrorism. What does the killing of bin Laden and three others really mean?
What do you do when you commit to something? Do you give only “lip service” when you commit? Do you “talk the talk, but not ‘walk the walk’?” What does making a commitment mean? From your point of view, does making a commitment really matter?
In 1980, I read the book, “Your Erroneous Zones,” by Wayne Dyer. In it, if my memory is correct, Dyer stated: “The two most unnecessary emotions in life are guilt and worry.” In a recent post entitled, “Can Feeling Guilty Be Good?”, I took up the topic of guilt and whether it’s necessary. Please click on the title, if you wish to read more about my thoughts about guilt. In this post, let’s consider the necessity of worry.
I have always wanted to be able to motivate myself and others. As a friend, family member, team member, coach, teacher, mentor, etc., there have been many times where I wanted to be able to motivate people. During college and most of my career as a teacher, I read, questioned and consistently thought about how to be a better motivator. Eventually, I discovered a strong connection between motivation, values and ideas. Here’s my humble attempt of explaining what I mean.
A decade ago, I went through a bout of depression. During the experience, I wondered whether or not it was an opportunity for a positive learning experience. At the time, my brain felt like it was overloaded and generally, I constantly felt overwhelmed. So, is it possible for something that makes me feel overloaded and overwhelmed to ever be a positive learning experience?
Have you ever studied the relationship between quality and quantity? I’ll bet you have. In fact, there is hardly an American over six years old who hasn’t. And, if you have a high school education, no matter how well did in school, you have formally studied the relationship.