Should you trust yourself? Are you considered trustworthy? I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about “trust” lately.
Over the past few weeks, while watching the news on television or reading newspapers, I’ve noticed many reports about our country’s health care fiasco. Often mentioned is how many of our citizens don’t trust the government to run the “public option.” Also, I’m reading and hearing that many don’t trust President Obama. This has caused me to think about whether or not I’m considered trustworthy.
What does it mean to be trustworthy? Looking at this question from a historical point of view, I know that most of the great leaders have been people who were considered trustworthy. They were people who could be counted or relied upon, at least by their followers. For whatever position s/he historically had, the followers of the great person thought s/he did the right thing.
Examples of recent leaders who have manifested trustworthiness to a large number of followers are Aung San Suu Kyi, Nelson Mandela, Abraham Lincoln and President Obama. Well, that’s nice to know, but how can we use this to help us become better people? Of course, I am assuming that one aspect of being a better person is being trustworthy.
I think that a trustworthy person does the right thing, no matter what it is and no matter when it needs to be done. They share relevant and appropriate information in a clear and accurate manner. A trustworthy person says what s/he means and means what s/he says. A trustworthy person “talks the talk and walks the walk.”
I know when I am asked to write recommendations, one of the attributes I try to address regarding the person I am recommending is her/his character. I think a person who is trustworthy, is a person who is manifesting a very important aspect of character. It’s not the only one I consider, but an important one. Now, I realize that even crooks might trust each other, but that still doesn’t discount the importance of the quality of trustworthiness.
Of course, being trustworthy is a quality that, when earned, doesn’t last forever. By this, I mean we must earn trust over and over again. It’s very easy to lose trust, and when it is lost, it often takes a long time to regain it. In other words, trust is like fragile glass; it is easy to break and very difficult to put back together.
So, how do you become trustworthy in a positive way? Well, first you must have good values, like honesty and respect, that are manifested in your behavior. Your behavior should demonstrate what you believe in, and as mentioned above, “talk the talk and walk the walk.” You should admit your mistakes and not try to make them appear as belonging to someone else. And, you should trust yourself.
Ralph Waldo Emerson is reported to have said, “Self–trust is the first secret of success.” Indeed, if we are to be successful, then we must have self-trust. Self-trust enables us to be confident, and happy to live with ourselves.
Do you trust yourself? Please answer the following questions.
Do you work to earn your trust?
Do you generally try to “do the right thing?”
Are you honest with yourself?
Do you readily admit your mistakes to yourself?
Do you think you can be relied upon?
Do you love yourself?
If you answered “yes” to all of the questions, then most likely, you trust yourself. Do you?
The best proof of love is trust. —Joyce Brothers
Are you proving your love?
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